richmond lister 
Member since Oct 11, 2017



  • No friends yet.
Become My Friend Find friends »

Recent Comments

Re: “FILM REVIEW: “The Post” and “Molly’s Game” Suffer From Different Setbacks

If the defeat of heiress apparent and never-to-be-President Hillary Clinton was a calamity, it was entirely one of her own creation, though I have to give the reviewer credit for recognizing the Spielberg movie as the tiresome "You Go, Girl!" boosterism it obviously is.

Enjoy your tax cuts, everybody.

3 likes, 2 dislikes
Posted by richmond lister on 01/03/2018 at 10:30 PM

Re: “2017 Richmonder of the Year: The Resistance

Forthcoming Style headlines

Confederate Graves in Hollywood to Receive Cultural Context Plaques

Virginia Reps Sound of Music Not Anti-Nazi Enough

VMFA Hires New Art Curator, Who Happens to Be Black (Just Sayin)

MegaMates Awarded Style Weeklys Lifetime Achievement in Advertising Award

Opinion: Lamaire Should Start Accepting EBT

Nightlife: Buddys Place Trivia Night Privileges Fun Fact Hegemony While Salsa Night Remains Problematic and Triggering

Local White Person is Greedy Capitalist Pig, But Its OK Because Shes a Woman

Hijab Job Fair at Virginia Center Commons

Triangle Players Stage One-Millionth Play About Being Gay, Because in All the 3000 Years of Western Theater Being Gay is the Only Subject Worth Having a Play About

Youre Very Richmond If: Youre a Guatemalan National

VCU Adjuncts Demand Access to On-Campus Abortion

Wheels Not Turnin: What the Trump Presidency Means for RVA Bike Lanes

St. Johns Church Sold as Condos

Altria Theatre Sold as Mosque
Local Vandal Self-Identifies as Artist

Local Transgender Self-Identifies as Legally Zoned Backyard Chicken

GRTC Pulse Rapid Transit: Worse Than the Holocaust?

16 likes, 18 dislikes
Posted by richmond lister on 12/27/2017 at 12:33 PM

Re: “Thanks for the Memories

And the 2017 Style Award for Most Grandstanding Non Sequitur in an Opinion Piece goes to...

(Envelope please.)

This is easily one of the dumbest things I've ever seen in Style. "Too bad its treatment of the Lumpkin's slave jail site kept Richmond from becoming the foodie capital of the South."

Um, m-kay. Whatever you say.

And how is it this Obama whiteface thing, whatever it is, was so powerful it managed to keep Richmond off the national foodie radar and yet, somehow, this is literally the first I've ever heard about it?

Please, Style. You're trying too hard.

23 likes, 2 dislikes
Posted by richmond lister on 12/18/2017 at 11:42 AM

Re: “Men’s Bad Behavior Starts Young, When the Power to Disrespect Feels Like a Birthright

I was sighing aloud by the third paragraph of this Back Page story. I could see what was coming a mile away.

First, why would Ms. Mills have assumed these two young motorists were lost? And once having initiated contact with the motorists, where had she expected the encounter to go, exactly? I submit the following:

The moment Ms. Mills chose to proactively engage with strange men on the road, she signaled to them that she was interested in them, in the broadest sense. That they, not altogether unforeseeably, chose to interpret this interest in the worse, most self-flattering way speaks poorly of their character but doesnt change the facts of the case as described. Ms. Mills chose to engage strange men on the road, and when the encounter didnt go where she expected it to go, she chose to pursue them.

Her question to the young man, How would you feel if someone did something like that to your mother?, and the general tone of maternal admonishment of the final confrontation scene, are revealing. What would make her think the young man himself wouldnt like to do something like that to his own mother, or see her similarly degraded and sexually embarrassed in public? If that question shocks you, let me invite you to brush up on the last century and a half of work in modern psychology.

Initially, Mills sees the motorists in infantilizing terms (pink cheeks and a guileless smile). She then steps into the role of Mommy as Do-For-You when she assumes, unaccountably, that theyre lost (classic children-in-distress trope) moves to volunteer unsolicited assistance. When one young man makes an ugly and insulting remark to her, Mills instinctively (her characterization) takes on the Mommy as Pursuer role. Heedless of the dangers to herself, she chases them down in her vehicle. She then becomes Mommy as Scold.

Retrospect is 20/20, of course, but the most withering response Ms. Mills could have given to this jerks remark would have been to visibly laugh at him, roll up her car window, roll her eyes, and shake her head in amused disbelief. By chasing after him and angrily admonishing him, Im afraid, she may likely have given him what he wanted (Mommys Outrage) and might even have fueled the resentful fear of women that obviously underlies his anti-social behavior.

A word to women: If you want men to respect you, stop trying to be their Mommy.
As far as the exhausted feminist assumption that always lurks beneath the surface of these Woman Is Mad As Hell and Shes Not Gonna Take It Anymore pieces, namely that men would be oh-so-good-to-you if society didnt teach them its ok to be bad to you, I say hogwash. At no time in Western civilization has it been socially acceptable for men to speak or act in ugly, sexually aggressive ways towards strange women in public. Such behavior from men, while pervasive, has always fallen outside the framework of social acceptability.
Society doesnt teach men to be bad. Many, many men are bad despite societal prohibitions and conventions.

What the young man said to Ms. Mills was beyond rude, by the way. It was quite ugly and insulting.

5 likes, 8 dislikes
Posted by richmond lister on 11/24/2017 at 3:41 PM

Re: “Coming to Richmond Next Year, a Co-Working and Social Space for Women and Nonbinary People

So you want to conduct business from within a designated safe space? How does that command authority with clients? The workplace is the workplace. It's not a space to practice yoga, tap into the social justice warrior hive, or nurse your baby. If you're in business to make money, and not as a hobby or social statement, this isn't the way to go. You're just going to get dragged down in the depressive mire of people who can't compartmentalize their personal and professional lives and who cannot prioritize tasks.

15 likes, 31 dislikes
Posted by richmond lister on 10/11/2017 at 11:53 AM

Favorite Places

  • None.
Find places »

Saved Events

  • Nada.
Find events »

Saved Stories

  • Nope.
Find stories »

Custom Lists

  • Zip.

Copyright © 2018 Style Weekly
Richmond's alternative for news, arts, culture and opinion
All rights reserved
Powered by Foundation