Mess Rayford 
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Re: “Inching Away

So so so excited to see this show!!!

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 10/22/2014 at 11:27 AM

Re: “Speed Dreaming

I, too was present at auditions, and I agree with Jacquie and Andrew. In fact, I am upset that this statement was even made. I have known Raven for several years, and she has continued to impress me with her talent and the dedication she gives to each performance. I know that there are directors who give actors parts to make a statement, regardless of their abilities. Jan Powell is not that kind of person. Raven was not handed this part. She earned it. Judge her for her talent, because really, nothing else should matter.

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 06/27/2014 at 3:23 PM

Re: “LETTER: Different Opinions on Same-Sex Marriage

Gurley- don't twist my words.

Im not saying stay at home mothers don't have a fulfilling life. Im saying that forcing that to be the norm for everyone is single minded. Some people want nothing other than to stay at home and raise kids . More power to them. But to expect an advancing society to conform to the social standards of 60 years ago is to lack a great deal of foresight. But ill remain, in your sight, as "someone who doesnt know better", and thats fine with me. I think we have very different values, so ill pass on trying to befriend you .

Anyway, we are unnecessarily straying from the topic, which is whether homosexual parents can successfuly parent a child. My stance remains firm that they can. Anyone who puts their mind to it, and sees it for the gift that it is, can raise a child. Be they gay, straight, single, or married. Any child born or adopted by parents that want and value them is on its way to a successful life.

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 02/13/2014 at 1:09 PM

Re: “LETTER: Different Opinions on Same-Sex Marriage


I would say that any child that has a loving parent (be it one, two, or a neighborhood community of seven) has not been betrayed. It's true that there are more voluntary single mothers today, but should they be forced to marry a man just because they want a child? A lot of women out there have a lot of love to give. It seems cruel to take away their chances just because they will be "alone"...when often these voluntary single mothers are the furthest thing from that. They have family and community support behind them.

I'm glad that I wasn't raised by a stay at home mom. My mother got to have a fulfilling life, with a child AND a career, and I think she was much happier for it. We have come a long way since the 1950's. I can personally say that if I had to be a stay at home mother, I would be terribly depressed. I find too much joy in my career to be able to give it up. When you have a child, many things get put on the back burner, but no one should be expected to sacrifice all of who they are just because they have a baby.

"No one knows what the advent of same sex parents will have on children." Um, we do. The answer? No effect whatsoever. If you are raised by a loving parent, or loving parents, that is your norm. You grow up, and you know love. Look at Zach Wahls, who said "In my 19 years not once have I ever been confronted by an individual who realized independently that I was raised by a gay couple. And do you know why? Because the sexual orientation of my parents has had zero effect on the content of my character."

Do your research. These kids are out there. You just probably don't notice them because there is NOTHING DIFFERENT about them.

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 02/13/2014 at 9:12 AM

Re: “LETTER: Different Opinions on Same-Sex Marriage

Taking children away from their mothers??? WHAT?

Brenda - I'm an adopted child. My biological mother chose to give me up for correct and intelligent reasons. And whether I was adopted by a heterosexual or a homosexual family, no one STOLE me.

It just so happens that I was adopted by a heterosexual family. Very loving and generous parents, who, when I came out of the closet, accepted and loved me for who I am.

Ask me, ask any other adopted child, gay or straight, with same sex parents or no, I am not a train wreck. And I am happy that someone chose me. You can hear from me right now. No need to make a blanket assumption that in 20 years people will still be as closed minded as you. I pray to God that they won't be. THAT would be a train wreck.

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 02/12/2014 at 6:29 PM

Re: “Deejay Gray, 25

Amen. Deejay, I'm also proud of you for receiving this honor!

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 01/04/2014 at 5:40 PM

Re: “Deejay Gray, 25

Well, I was trying to formulate a response to this, not that I assume anyone cares about my opinion, but then I read Kelsey Cordrey's beautiful response, and I have to say that I am so thankful that I know her, because it was beautifully put. "The only thing that separates being malicious and being human is an apology."

I've known Deejay since 2007, and as someone in my mid-twenties, 6 1/2 years is a good quarter of my life. And it has been a very good quarter. Deejay has always been a warm, welcoming, and kind person. But he's also a human. Yes, he's made a few mistakes. But so have I. Frequently. And I have to say that I wouldn't want my personal life blasted across the internet. We have the power to do that to one another now. We live in that age, and that anyone should have the power to throw shade on another person's career with a few careless strokes on a keyboard is both frightening and shameful.

Is it really so hard to get to know a person and form your own opinions? Yes, it's fun to gossip, but it's also incredibly lazy. Because you are taking someone else's word as solid fact, and doing none of the work to get to know a person. And when that person is someone as approachable and open as Deejay, there's just no excuse for not trying.

I'm happy with the positive comments I see on here. I encourage the others to think a little more. But that's just me. I'm going to continue to work and collaborate and make beautiful art with my friend, whose passion and get-it-done attitude are always a joy to be around.

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Posted by Mess Rayford on 01/03/2014 at 10:24 AM

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